HELP WITH MASCULINE DESTINY

Problem:

The modern generation of men is facing a disconnection from their traditional roles and masculine identity.
Societal shifts from the Industrial Age to the Digital Era have drawn men away from their families and homes, leading to a sense of confusion and loss of fulfillment.

Why:

Historical factors such as infectious diseases, infanticide, and wars shaped previous generations’ experiences and family dynamics.
Capitalism and industrialization brought progress but also disrupted traditional family bonds, with men increasingly working apart from their families.
The absence of fathers (physically/spiritually) in many households today is a result of these changes and has significant societal consequences.
Men, lacking clear rites of passage and male role models, may tend to seek maternal love in their relationships, leading to confusion and challenges in their roles.
Women, often puzzled by male weakness, suffer as a result, impacting family dynamics.

SOLUTION:

Reclaiming masculinity as a way of addressing this disconnection is crucial for men so they may actively fulfill their potential and contribute positively to maintaining the balance society requires under the chaos versus order influences demanded by nature itself.
(read a more complete version of the above in the essay, “Men at Work,” found here: https://advisortomen.com/men-at-work/

MY ORIGIN STORY
I arrive from smack dab in the middle of a family of eleven. There were five boys and four girls and mom and dad.
Both of my parents attachments to their own parents were compromised and these influences profoundly affected their parenting.
Despite best intentions, ma was passive aggressive and dad bounced between tyranny and weakness his whole life.
This had dire consequences on all of us. Dad said I was his most sensitive child, later stating I was his brightest too, which is weird, because my siblings are all smart.
Nevertheless, I was forced by circumstances and his violence into becoming the “black sheep of the family” to survive.
It took until my mid-thirties to come out of a tailspin of drug addiction and crime when I had an epiphany over my two year old son. (read it here if you are interested)

As a high school dropout, I then began to upgrade my education while also working full time as a lay drug and alcohol counsellor.
I lacked the qualifications for college but persisted until they allowed me to start in September (as long as I promised to keep doing the high school equivalents).
Years later, after achieving the highest academic marks in each program year, I graduated “with distinction” as their #1 student in the behavioural sciences.
I then studied at two universities, the School for Addiction Studies, became a hypnotist, and wrote two books while still not having a high school diploma. I had skipped!

I worked as a counsellor full time and eventually part time while I still grappling with functional addiction, marital problems and hidden maturational deficits.
I rose to senior vice president Canada in the paid circulation sector of the newspaper industry. At one time I had 150 reps & 15 managers working for me in seven cities for a dozen newspaper clients. Regrettably, I left the business in 2015, a few years after the I-pad came out and print media died, an externality of the digital age.

Since 1986, I have kept up on the psych literature while reading a book per week, and have mentored or counselled hundreds of men and many women.
After recognizing and overcoming my own male weakness, I have come to believe this remains the greatest challenge facing mankind.
After all, women can keep a male alive to adulthood, but, bless their hearts, they don’t make men. Only men can do that.
And unless we have empowered men who can defend women, children and society at large, we are truly fucked.
Fact is, the world desperately needs powerful men. Not tyrants, nor the “alpha” hopes of the immature, but powerful individual men of masculine destiny.

Having said that, most men on this journey are at first reluctant to engage with other men. This common problem is quickly overcome.

Here are four things you can do which will help you find your own brand of masculine identity and destiny.

1. JOIN MEN OF HONOUR ON FACEBOOK
The Men of Honour FB group is populated with men who have either worked with me or whom are evolved types subscribing for personal growth.
If you are just seeking to “dip your toe in the water” for whatever reason, this is an easy start.
The group contains guides under the titles physiology, prayer, people and production. There are hundreds of key posts to reference there.
Men of Honour hosts a one hour “Church Check In” each Sunday at noon EST (New York/Toronto) where you can ask me and others questions and discuss stuff.
You can also post questions in the group, and receive feedback and support.
Men of Honour costs just $48 per year and it’s an outstanding value. Click here to join or click on the image below.

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2. JOIN THE 10MM BOARD OF DEFENDERS MEN’S GROUPS
These boards meet at two times on Saturdays currently (with more times added as needed) and are an opportunity to form close tribal support amongst men.
There is an extensive back end of materials available to you as well that you can use to better your life
The much vaunted DEFENDER course of shields is exclusive to 10MM Board members and comes included in the monthly rate.
While Men of Honour is an act of “dipping the toe in the water” the Defender Boards is the next logical progression to overcoming barriers between men.
The current boards are brilliant and populated by wise men who have been doing the work for some time, as well as newcomers who have just recently joined.
It’s a chance to check in, report wins, losses, challenges, and ask questions, as well as decide on a future focus and ask for accountability.
The board pricing is purposefully kept low to encourage longer term commitment so you are never without support.
It also includes an active WhatsApp channel for each defender group as well as a general Defender Chat where all the men can participate
Join the 10MM Board of Defenders today and get all of this and more for just $69 per month. Click here to join or click on the graphic below

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3. TAKE THE TAMING SHAME COURSE
A majority of men will carry varying levels of shame with them into adulthood. I say this after interviewing hundreds of men and women over decades of my work. I myself carried what I called my “piece of shit” shame for near fifty years, finally freeing myself from its doom and gloom inertia for good a decade ago. If you have ever felt embarrassed at a compliment or felt out of place hearing of someone else’s success, or become defensive when criticized, shame is its likely source. The insidious forces of shame speak secretly to a man about his brokenness and unworthiness and keep him playing small.
With some instruction, some guided meditations and practices, access to me to ask questions, and some advanced techniques which help you negotiate criticism, apologies and much more, soon you will leave shame behind.
The Taming Shame course was also kept affordable to allow as many men as possible to take advantage of its power to dispel shame for good.
Over 500 hundred men have taken the course. Here’s what two of them had to say about it

The course is a bargain at twice the price and is just $99.
Click here or on the graphic below to tame shame for good.

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4. WORK WITH THE ADVISOR TO MEN ON “THE BOOK OF ME”
Although I’m on every Men of Honour call and most Board of Defender meetings, you may prefer one on one support with me directly.
You are in luck, I’m still taking on the odd client though I can’t promise how long I can do that for.
Typically, we work together for a minimum of twelve sessions (though some men renew and I give you the same rate indefinitely.
Sessions are 70 minutes and no-expiry, meaning they never expire (ex. Some men do ten and keep two for emergencies just in case)
The “Book of Me” gives you a comprehensive view of who you are, what gets in your way, and the gifts you bring to the world.
It both regulates the past and helps you create a compelling future.
If this is something that interests you, and you are prepared to invest in yourself, book a call with me here or click on my pictures below